Self Worth
It is really important to have a sense of one's own value or worth as a person. Your worth should not be measured by what other people say or think of you.
Once a young man came to a wise man and
said, “I’ve come to you because I feel so worthless that I don’t want to live
anymore. Everyone around me says that I’m a failure and a fool. I’m begging
you, please help me!”
The wise man glanced at him and hurriedly
answered, “I’m sorry, but I’m very busy right now and can’t help you. I have an
urgent matter to take care of”... stopped for a moment, thinking, then added,
“But if you agree to help me get it done, then I will gladly help you
afterwards.”
“Of... of course,” murmured the young
man, noting bitterly that yet again his concerns had been dismissed as
unimportant. “Great!” said the wise man and took off from his finger a small
ring with a gem. “Take a horse and go to the market. I have to sell this ring as
soon as possible to pay off a debt. Try to get as much as you can for it and,
no matter what, do not take anything
less than a gold coin. Go now and come back as soon as you can.”
The young man took the ring and rode
away. When he got to the market and showed the ring to the merchants they
looked it over with interest. However, when they heard that it would cost at
least a gold coin, they lost all interest.
Some laughed right in his face, others
simply turned away, and only one merchant kindly explained that a gold coin was
too high of a price for such a ring. The most he could get for it would be a
silver coin or a bronze. When the young man heard that, he was distraught,
remembering the wise man’s directions not to take anything less than a gold
coin. He went through the entire market and offered over a hundred people, but
nothing changed.
He got on his horse and rode back to the
wise man. “I wasn’t able to sell your ring.” said with sadness. “No one was
willing to pay me a gold coin for it. I could get a silver coin, but that’s not
what this ring is worth.”
“Now that’s a very important point, my
son!” said the wise man. “Before trying to sell the ring, you should find out
it’s worth! And who can know that better than a jeweller? You went to the
people who hardly knew its value. Remember this, my son like this ring you too
are precious and unique! And only a real expert can appreciate your worth. So
why are you wasting your time going to random people and believing what they
think of you.”
All
of us come across those times when we feel ourselves to be completely useless.
This mostly happens when we start believing in the worth measurement criteria
laid down by the people around us. How they perceive our success or failure
becomes our worth. When we repeatedly listen same negative things about us,
somewhere in our sub-conscious mind this gets fixed. Afterwards our clever mind
starts playing the same blame game with us, which till now was limited to
others. It starts haunting the person and in a few cases pushes them to take
extreme steps.
Throughout
his life span an ordinary person keeps on trying to polish his skills and
behaviours according to the social norms to fulfil the expectations of the
society in which he has to survive. This society consists of his parents,
teachers, friends, relatives and acquaintances etc. While it is of great
importance to listen to others’ advice, we should equally have faith in our
judgement skills. But we often fail to do so. Be it a student, a professional
or a house wife, we all should strive to keep ourselves in a healthy company.
We should try to be around people who value us irrespective of our successes or
failures.
Nobody
is perfect but considering ourself in a reliably negative manner always is the
way to have a gloomy self worth. Improving the quality of our contemplations
improves our mental self view. It is completely in our hands.
The
manner in which we consider ourself currently is our present confidence. But we
have freedom and capacity to gather self confidence irrespective of what others
think of us. Our own thoughts play a key role in this. Those who always do
'belittling self-talk' will assemble a low perspective on their self-esteem.
The more we keep thinking and concentrating on negative contemplations that
lower our self worth, the more awful we will feel about ourself.
When we let other people dictate what is
correct, apt and beautiful, we cannot live our lives the way we want it since
we design our objectives dependent on their principles. Being around negative individuals can be distressful. Such
individuals are full of negative vitality and will in general be worriers. They
generally observe negative or apocalypse out of each circumstance. Those who
stay longer with them tend to be like them. Our self worth is greatly
determined by the company we keep. When we decide to assemble our confidence,
the positive articulations become more grounded in us and the old negative ones
get more fragile.
Considering
yourself to be significant is an essential attitude. Preferring yourself is a
basic human need. Perceiving your past
accomplishments and achievements as learning experiences gives you an
increasingly blissful life and enables you to continue to accomplish and achieve
more.
“To
love yourself right now is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die.
If you wait, you die now. If you love you live now.”
(Alan
Cohen)
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